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So much yes to this. What I have been facing recently are church leaders that do not wish to accept my “no”. They said “okay, let us know when you are ready to accept a calling” to which I replied “it could be a very long time, until my mom isn’t with us any longer.” Caring for my mom had oroven to be challenging on more than one occasion when fulfilling callings or assignment. So I decided that my calling at this time is my mother. I feel good about that decision. It has been a year since that conversation. And I have been asked TWICE to take on a calling. By the same person I had the convo with. I just remind them of the previous conversation and that nothing has changed for me. And I do feel because of words they are choosing to use that I am being manipulated. “The Lord needs you” “we feel inspired”. Um, what about MY inspiration?

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Oh man, that pisses me off. It's so manipulative. Of course they keep asking you. You have been amazing in all your callings. With so many people leaving the church or actually setting boundaries and following their own inspiration, they are desperate to find people to serve.

I'm proud of you for making your own decision and caring for your mother. Stick to your guns. Love you!

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Thank you for having the courage to write about your personal truths. Your words have resonated with me and a younger Alex who wrestled with church and spirituality. Love ya auntie 😘

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You're welcome. It's a lot to unpack. Love you, too!

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