Wave of Grief

Being present as a wave of grief comes and goes

I tried to write the next chapter of my story yesterday and today, but a big wave of grief about my divorce came over me, as it does, and I just couldn’t write. I don’t feel ready to share about my divorce in detail. I will say that it’s a strange thing to be moving forward and also feeling grief come crashing on me without warning or care if it’s a convenient time. It just comes. I allow myself to be present with the heaviness as it weighs on my heart and eventually subsides. 

When I was newly separated and under constant grief and despair, I read this poem “For the Breakup of a Relationship” by John O’Donohue from his book To Bless the Space Between Us.¹ I wrote a few lines from it and hung it on the fridge as a reminder that it was okay to lie low, to feel everything and that eventually the anguish will pass.

I’ll get back to my story soon…

1. O’Donohue, John. "For the Breakup of a Relationship." To Bless the Space Between Us, Doubleday, 2008, pp. 165-166.