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Wave of Grief

Being present as a wave of grief comes and goes

Rachel
Nov 5, 2023
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I tried to write the next chapter of my story yesterday and today, but a big wave of grief about my divorce came over me, as it does, and I just couldn’t write. I don’t feel ready to share about my divorce in detail. I will say that it’s a strange thing to be moving forward and also feeling grief come crashing on me without warning or care if it’s a convenient time. It just comes. I allow myself to be present with the heaviness as it weighs on my heart and eventually subsides. 

When I was newly separated and under constant grief and despair, I read this poem “For the Breakup of a Relationship” by John O’Donohue from his book To Bless the Space Between Us.1 I wrote a few lines from it and hung it on the fridge as a reminder that it was okay to lie low, to feel everything and that eventually the anguish will pass.

I’ll get back to my story soon…

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O’Donohue, John. "For the Breakup of a Relationship." To Bless the Space Between Us, Doubleday, 2008, pp. 165-166.

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Penny haynie
Nov 5Liked by Rachel

Rachel you can do this. It is a rollercoaster and at time the car derails. I so appreciate the depth of you your honesty. I truly identify with your pain. Just know that we are each angels with just one wing. My wing is wrapped around you....you will fly again. Love you.

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Marjean Bigelow
Nov 5Liked by Rachel

I'm so sorry Rachel. Take care of yourself and lie low as long as you need. Sending love your way.

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